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Throwing It Back

We walked along the shore of Atlantic City. The beach was quiet with only a few other souls in view. The sun warmed the winter air to a comfortable temperature and cast stark shadows of the shells on the sand. The seagulls circled silently around us riding the current in the air. The waves rhythmically pushed themselves ashore. They darkened the sand to an almost black and erased the footprints that my son had left moments before.

That morning along the beach, my son took to launching enormous clam shells back into the sea. The inhabitants had been the unwilling dinner guests of another sea creature or one of those circling seagulls. Now, their empty shells laid scattered along the shore. I watched as my son scurried along the sand, finding the biggest ones, and brought them up to the water’s edge. The ocean had given up the shells to the land and now my son was sending them back.

Since my son was young, he has always liked to throw things in the water. He liked to see how far he can throw something against the limitless backdrop of the ocean. There were no walls to bounce off, no cars to avoid, only infinity against which to test his strength. After he hurled an object into the sky, he would track it through the air until it reached its destination. Would it skip or would it splash? Either was acceptable, as long as it was far. On the really good ones, he’d turn to me and ask if I saw how far it went. Of course I was watching, I told him, but he was already looking for his next projectile.

As I watched him throw shell after shell, I thought about the things I’d like to throw into the sea. I’d start by taking his seizures from him. Like a piece of paper, I’d crumble them up into a ball until they held their shape. I’d grip it like a fastball and wind up with enough torque that, when I let go, the seizures would disappear over the horizon. I’d do the same with his medicine and their side effects. His learning and attention issues would be the next to go, followed by his fatigue and ataxia. Over and over, I’d crush these afflictions into dense spheres and throw them with all my strength. Whether they skipped or splashed, I only want them far away from my son, somewhere at the bottom of the sea.

Where Care Lodges, Sleep Will Never Lie

I walked from the living room to the kitchen, passing the door that led down to my son’s room. Out of the corner of my eye, I noticed a tuft of red hair sticking through the doorway. I stopped, tilted my head to the side, and saw an eye widen with the realization that the person it was attached to had just been caught.

This was the third time he was out of bed. He was restless and did not want to sleep alone. I slowly pulled open the door and asked him what he needed. “I was wondering,” he said, looking down at the floor, “if someone wanted to lay with me downstairs.” During the last few weeks, when his seizures were worse and when we were on the road, we often slept in the same bed. Now that we were home, we were transitioning back to our normal sleeping arrangements. This anxiety was an anticipated side effect. On the first night, he was so exhausted that he fell asleep in his own bed before he could plead his case for one my night in ours. On this second night, though, following a long afternoon nap, he was in a better position to resist.

“Come on, buddy,” I said as I led him back down in to his room. I climbed in to his bed and he followed, laying down next to me and putting his fingers in his mouth. By the light of his nightlight, I could see him adjust his body in to its ready-to-sleep position, and the tell-tale sign of impending sleep where he picks gently at his upper lip soon followed. His breath began to lengthen and, after only a few minutes, he was asleep.

On the nights that followed, we brought him back up to our room because his morning seizures had once again gotten worse and it was easier on all of us to be in the same room when they happened. No late night trips down the stairs and fumbling through the dark to find him sitting up in his bed; instead, we were next to him to reassure him and coax him back to sleep.

This has been the pattern of our lives for the past two years. When we think we are getting a handle on his seizures, we transition him back to his room. When he is in his bed, I vigilantly watch the monitor throughout the night and listen for any signs our most unwelcome intruder. When his seizures inevitably get worse again, we bring him back in to our room and spend the night uncomfortably cramped in a small bed, waiting for the sounds and uncontrollable movements that accompany the attack on my son’s brain.

If I seem tired, it’s because I am. Sleep is sporadic and short and only serves to keep me functional the next day. Some days, it’s barely enough to keep the lights on, but I find a way. Because most of us that are living this life don’t have the luxury or desire to stop because if we do…what we miss could be everything. So we stay on watch, careful and committed, for as long as we are needed.

This is what it is like to be the parent of a child with uncontrolled seizures.

Care keeps his watch in every old man’s eye,
And where care lodges, sleep will never lie.
― William Shakespeare, Romeo and Juliet

Five Seconds

They come in the early morning. Just as the sky is starting to lighten but hours before any of us want to be awake, these unwelcome visitors start as a misfiring in my son’s brain before traveling through his body and entering our world.

His seizures come like rolling waves. The first wave is long and drawn-out. It serves as the siren, alerting us . His body stiffens, his lungs slowly expel their content in a low, distinct moan. I wake up, roll over, put my hand on his chest, and tell him that it’s going to be okay.

One-one thousand.

A series of shorter waves come next. His body loosens slightly, then tenses again with a grunt. The cadence of the waves becomes steady beneath my hand.

Two-one thousand.

I sit up, rubbing the sleep from my eyes. They adjust to the dark and I can see my son’s body convulse. His eyes flutter, matching the timing of the repeating pattern of his body.

Three-one thousand

My perception of time goes awry. A few seconds have passed, but the agony that I feel acts as a multiplier and those seconds feel like forever. I have time to wonder whether these seizures will end soon or whether they will keep their tormenting hold on my little boy. There are no signs, no clues to help me predict the size of the storm. The only thing to do is to wait and to keep counting.

Four-one thousand.

The waves elongate slightly and are less intense, which gratefully means the end is near. I start to rub my son’s chest again and reassure him. I want my voice to be the first thing he hears. I want to give him a safe place to return.

Five-one thousand.

The seizures release their grasp on my son and his lungs fill violently with air as he desperately inhales. He sits up in bed, trying to get his bearings. He’s teetering between sleep and the unwanted awakening that his firing neurons have forced upon him.

I continue to watch him as the waves dissipate. Sometimes he simply turns over and falls back asleep. I like those times the best because its like he rides the waves of seizures safely back to shore. Other times, the waves crash his tiny frame in to the rocks. He cries and it breaks my heart even more.