epilepsy dad

Author: Dave

  • Perfection (The Game, Not The Goal) For Fine Motor Rehab

    Perfection (The Game, Not The Goal) For Fine Motor Rehab

    During his hospital stay in February, my son had a bad reaction to one of his anti-seizure medicines and developed ataxia, which is the loss of full control of bodily movements. For two days, he couldn’t walk, or talk, or hold his head up. We had to carry him to the restroom and feed him, which was a shock considering he was ice skating only the week before. We didn’t know if this was a permanent situation or if he would ever recover.

    Fortunately, by the third day he started to move again, although he was incredibly shaky. His gross and fine motor skills were both severely impacted, and we watched through our tears to see him struggle to hold himself up or hold a spoon or form a thought. While we were still in the hospital, he started occupational therapy, physical therapy, and speech therapy to try to rebuild the skills that were damaged. By the time we left the hospital a few weeks later, he was functioning at about 50% his pre-admission level both mentally and physically.

    Since then, he has continued his rehabilitation and, while he is still wobbly and has impulse and attention difficulties, he is better than he was. The therapists at our hospital have been amazing, and they’ve incorporated games as a way to engage my son for rehab without realizing that it what he’s doing. Taking a cue from his occupational therapist, this week we’ve been playing a lot of [easyazon_link identifier=”B00CXEXSUU” locale=”US” tag=”lightningbuddha-20″]Perfection[/easyazon_link].

    epilepsy rehab ot occupational therapy perfection game ataxia

    The game helps develop two different skills. First, the fine motor control required to grab the stem of each piece and navigate the shape in to the board is challenging. I watch as he tries to twist the stem with his fingers to rotate it to fit, dropping it many times but diligently picking it back up. When he rushes or when his ataxia is worse, it’s helping him really focus on muscle control.

    Cognitively, he’s having to identify the shape and scan the board to find the match, which can be difficult because there shapes that are similar to each other. He also needs to align the shapes, so his mind has to tell his fingers which way to rotate the shape. Oh, and he’s doing it against the clock.

    For now, we set simple goals, just trying to beat his score from the last time. Sometimes he does, other times he can’t. But we encourage him to keep trying because every time he plays, he’s exercising those muscles and pathways that were damaged, which is what they need the most.

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  • Epilepsy Foundation Of Eastern Pennsylvania Summer Stroll 2015

    Epilepsy Foundation Of Eastern Pennsylvania Summer Stroll 2015

    First, thank you to everyone that supported us for the Summer Stroll this year. I am not surprised at all that we have such kind and generous friends because of the love and concern you have shown us in this journey. But it was humbling and amazing to see our team total when we checked in. So, again, thank you!

    The Summer Stroll was a mass of purple shirts, all people who have been affected by epilepsy. It was a bit surreal…the eventual realization that this is our community because we have been affected by epilepsy, too. And so have you. If you know us, then you know someone with epilepsy. If you don’t know us but are on this website, it’s likely because you know someone who has epilepsy, too.

    We are in this together.

  • Support Us At The Epilepsy Foundation Of Eastern Pennsylvania Summer Stroll

    On June 20, 2015 I’ll be helping the Epilepsy Foundation Eastern Pennsylvania continue to support and advocate for the people affected by epilepsy/seizure disorder at the annual Summer Stroll. The fundraising event is a five-mile, non-competitive walk that brings in over 1,500 individuals with epilepsy/seizure disorder and their supporters. In addition to raising awareness about the disorder, the event is integral in generating funds to support the Foundation’s free programs and services. Perhaps most importantly, the Summer Stroll is a testament to all those affected that they are not alone in their struggles.

    epilepsy summer stroll

    This year, our family will be walking for my son, and we’re asking for donations to help support our team and this great cause.

    You can read more about our journey with epilepsy here or click here to donate!

    Thank you in advance for your support, and be sure to come back after the event to see pictures!

  • A Night (Or, At Least, A Few Hours) On The Town

    A Night (Or, At Least, A Few Hours) On The Town

    Last night, my wife and I we were able to go on our first proper date (it was her birthday) since we moved to Philadelphia and since our family’s journey with epilepsy began. It was only a few hours on the town, but it came after many months of struggle.

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    One of the challenges that we’ve had has been to find someone to help take care of our son during the day. Up until now, it’s been primarily my wife, with me filling in after work and on the weekends. But my wife has to deal with the brunt of the behavior every day, all day, as well as struggle to find the time and attention to also give to her business, which she can’t do very often because our son needs near constant attention. And so she has bore the brunt of this for our family, sacrificed much of herself and her business, since it started.

    As parents, there was no training for how to navigate this new world. We were simply thrust in to it, as was our son. We’re trying to manage his epilepsy and control and direct his behavior, while at the same time simply trying to wrap our head around what is happening and why it is happening, two questions to which we still do not have answers. Like so many families that are going through the same thing, whether it’s for epilepsy or for another condition, the relentless struggle to simply manage the day-to-day is exhausting, and frustrating, and constant. We have both broken many times, only to go to bed, wake up, and do it all over again.

    Back when we lived in Colorado, we got breaks, we had jobs that we could focus on, and we went on dates. We had a few different babysitters, some as young as 15 because they only needed to play with our son and put him to bed. But now, a teenager is no more equipped for the situation than we were when we started. We needed someone who could handle the seizures, and keep him safe during an outburst, and that was trained, and capable, and able to handle the stress of working with a “special needs” kid.

    While we need someone with a particular set of skills (cue Liam Neeson), our son’s condition didn’t qualify as a medical necessity that required a nurse so, again like many other families, we’re left in the middle…not a medical necessity but more than a parent can handle. If you need assistance, you need to find it yourself and pay for it yourself, too. Both of those obstacles leave many people helpless, in every sense of the word.

    We’re very fortunate that we found an amazing caregiver that is patient and that works academically with our son since he hasn’t been able to attend school. But she can only come for a set number of hours a week…enough to help out and give my wife a chance to breathe, but not enough for her to actually catch her breath. We’re grateful the help and for the opportunity to go out for my wife’s birthday, especially since we know that there are other families that are not as lucky.

     

  • Daisy Days “Hope Blooms Here” Fashion Show

    Daisy Days is a month-long fundraising event uniting the entire Philadelphia community in support of one cause: The Children’s Hospital of Philadelphia. Earlier this month, they hosted a Daisy Days fashion show at their main campus in Philadelphia.

    Our son participated in the Daisy Days “Hope Blooms Here” fashion show after a very long day of seizures, behavior outbursts, and extreme exhaustion. But he refused to leave and wanted to get on the stage, which he did thanks to the kind nurses and volunteers that put on the show.

    Read more about CHOP Daisy Days.